How did you find out about your infertility issues?
I found out about my fertility issue after 3 months of trying to get pregnant. After 2 months of missed periods, I saw a gynecologist who offered some advice but did not do an ultrasound at the time. After 6 months of waiting, I saw her again, she did an ultrasound and noticed that I had the classic “strand of pearls” around the edge of my ovaries, meaning I likely had PCOS. She ran a full panel of tests to confirm, and the tests came back positive.
What are some of the difficulties you’ve had?
Some of the biggest difficulties I faced were due to conflicting information from doctors and staff. I would call for advice and get one answer, go in for an appointment and get another answer. It was very frustrating.
Being younger and struggling with infertility, I felt a bit judged that I was wanting to have a child so young. Some responses from the doctors and staffed seemed to me that they didn’t feel the rush to get pregnant like we did. I was only 23 but knew I was ready to start my family.
How have they impacted you? Your family?
This fertility issue did bless us in some ways. We were young students at an expensive university and I was able to work for 2 more years than I had planned. This allowed us to save and now I am able to be home with our child and we will graduate debt free. I also developed a special relationship with our baby before she was born and have continued to cultivate it now that she is here.
Our families now understand more about fertility issues and really supported us. We knew they were cheering us on and praying for us through the whole journey.
What do you wish people understood about infertility?
I wish people understood that it is very common and can happen to anyone at any age. There are many ways doctors can help couples struggling with infertility to get pregnant, but some may not work for you. Be patient, take breaks from the treatments when you need to and know that you are not alone.